God knew it was not good for man to be alone, so He made a "helper comparable to him" (2:18). God put Adam in charge but He knew Adam would need a helper. And then came Wo-Man – Eve! A Wo-Man to understand her husband and to help him fulfill his leadership role, to pray for him, support his talents, and encourage him. Now, does that imply that because man is in a leadership role, he has everything under control? Absolutely not! Woman is someone who is adaptable to him, someone to upgrade him. So, though the old saying says a dog is man's best friend, we know better! We have to accept our husbands for who they are. It does take time and patience, but through love and determination we can have a great marriage. After all, as women we are not alwas the easiest person to get along with. Our husband truly needs us to understand him.
- Don't compete with him or nag him, however try to support him and above all else please him.
- Zipping our lips can help us avoid a lot of unwanted conversations.
- Show respect to him at all times!
- Make sure you make prayer part of your daily life. Prayer is what changes things, not our attitude. Setting aside a special time of the day/night to talk to God will bring changes into our lives and marriage.
Many women seem to have a problem with submitting to their husband, yet most of us go outside of our home and faithfully submit to the leadership of our boss with no problem. If you fulfill your role and respect your husband as a leader in your home, your efforts will not go unnoticed by your husband.
Your submissive attitude allows a willing spirit to come upon your husband. I can say it will make the life of marriage somewhat easier. When your husband know you cover them in prayer and see how faithful you are as a woman or (wife), you can be a positive influence. This will also improve their leadership roles in the marriage and your home.
Men may not share their feelings as we do, but I found that does not mean they care less. They do care; they just express it in a different way. One last thing to share on loving your husband the right way. So many women become frustrated when trying to get the full attention of their spouse. These great pointers will help you and your judgment for learning how to love your husband the right way:
1) Men DO NOT like to be confronted face to face. You know how it is when being confronted by a dog on a long dark road? By no means am I making a comparison of a man to a dog. Maybe it's as an act of aggression and since they carry such authority within them, this could cause a problem. Make a choice to sit next to your spouse. Learn to sit next to my spouse on the bed or coach, it does make a difference in our interaction. There are even times where you walk and talk.
2) Make sure you don't have the TV on while having a conversation with your hubby. When you want to talk to your husband, try to start your conversation before the TV is turned on.
3) Make it easy. Don't go into a great deal of pointless discussion. Men like to come to the heart of the matter and get it over with. Men are very goal orientated, so don't waste their time. Men get restless during conversation when you're beating around the bush.
4) Always give positive news first. Giving negative news leads him to tune out the rest of what you want to share. Learned to be very wise on how to share news with your husband. Sometimes it may be a matter of waiting until another day or time to share it, if it is not detrimental.
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